I really felt that I have been doing really well lately. And that I have gotten a lot of positive steps taken on different goals. For instance, I finally got (after a year of begging) my mental health clinic to send the documents needed by Voc Rehab so that they could help me get the education I need to get the job I want. So, first, I’m actually thinking of going to school all day, every day, in the near future, and am not running and hiding under my bed when contemplating it. And second, I finally got my case manager at my clinic to speak to the local Housing Authority, who after a 5 year wait, told me I was over the income limit by $400 annually–when over $2k of that was a one time payment my ex had to make toward child support just so he could be allowed to get his passport, which he wanted to use to visit his fiancee in China. That payment will not be repeated, so why was Housing Authority including it? They refused to tell me how to appeal their decision, buy my case manager finally got ahold of them, and now they say they will reconsider if I make my case in a letter. So, I really feel that I have been able to be ‘healthy’ and ‘normal’ in dealing with this stuff, in getting the wheels rolling on these different tasks.
And then a month ago, my car was hit on the driver rear fender. Ironically, at a church parking lot where my daughter was attending a birthday, by the pastor!! Who didn’t even want me to report the accident. Said he had a friend….um, yah. So, his insurance determined he was 100% at fault. But now they are saying my car is totaled, because the repair is more than the value of the car. Well, for some stupid reason, Arizona (where I now find myself) forces all cars that have been totaled out by insurance companies to be given a ‘salvage’ title. This means, they can not for any reason, be driven on any public streets or parking lots, etc. The only way to get the car on the roads again is to ‘do repairs’ and then provide receipts of such repairs to testing facilities who inspect the car to see if 1) it is safe and roadworthy, and 2) if repairs done as per receipts provided were done properly. Then you can get a ‘restored/salvage’ title, and drive it again.
My problem now is, the other insurance company won’t tell me how much my check is going to be, or how much my car is valued at, so I can determine what funds I will have if I keep it and try to go thru the ‘restore/salvage’ process, and, since the damage is only bodily, and I cant repair it because it is the whole reason the car has been totaled….will the testing facility even DO the tests if I don’t have receipts? And if I DONT keep it, I need to have an idea of how much I’ll be given so I know what kind of replacement cars to look at. So, here, I thought I have been doing so well, acting so normally and healthily. I thought I was handling and controlling myself and my emotions. Until I got so worried about this car situation, and decided to call my own insurance, thinking they would be more free with information than the other party’s insurance has been so far. But I was wrong. I called, I waited on hold 20 minutes, I got transferred to customer service/sales…where they perky young lady refused to tell me absolutely anything, not even in general terms, not even the basics, and transferred me back to claims…..where I waited 20 more minutes on hold before finally being (ironically, magcially) transferred to the actual same person who had initially handled my claim….except he was out of the office for the day. So, as I found myself leaving a message for him, I suddenly teared up and could barely leave my name and number.
So, so much for thinking I might actually be ‘healthy’ and ‘normal’. I guess, I just get to have those almost healthy and normal days to make me feel good for a minute, before I fall back into those much more common and depressing days that I have all the time…y’know, where I cry at the least frustration or explode into anger instead. Where I can barely get myself to leave my house, to do the basics. Well, I guess I shouldn’t have expected those ‘healthy’ and ‘normal’ days to last. After all, I have got my own cushy spot all worn in in more typical and symptomatic days.